My garden: Once you set your own standards, nothing—not even the universe—can bring you down.

 I happened to watch an interview with monk Minh Niệm, where he spoke about how universe constantly offers us countless gifts, yet we rarely pause to feel grateful or to give something back. He reminded us that only when we give in proportion to what we receive can the balance of cause and effect be truly restored.

That simple teaching interrupted the stream of blame and resentment I had been holding toward the people around me.

Is there a way to not feel sad no matter what others say, even if the whole world misunderstands me? Oh, I think I just have to live true to myself.

To avoid being swayed by others, you must live true to your own values and essence.

Here are a few ways to train yourself so that even if the whole world misunderstands you, you won’t feel sad:

1. Define your own “standards” clearly
– Write down what matters most to you: kindness, fairness, hard work, sincerity…
– When someone misunderstands you, ask yourself: “Have I gone against my values?”
👉 If the answer is no, then their words are just passing wind.

2. Distinguish between what you can and cannot control
– You cannot control what others say or think.
– But you have full control over how you respond.
👉 What others think doesn’t define you. Your actions and choices define you.

3. Focus on the people who truly understand you
– Anyone can be misunderstood, even great people.
– But there will always be those who see your true worth. Invest your energy in them, not in those unwilling to understand.

4. Practice “letting go” with small actions
– When someone says something hurtful, instead of replaying it in your head, write it down on paper → then tear it up.
– This is a way of telling yourself: “I no longer keep trash in my heart.”

5. Live with your head held high
– The world may misunderstand you, but if you keep walking the right path, time will be your proof.
– Over time, you will gain inner strength: standing tall without needing anyone’s approval.

✨ A powerful reminder to keep in mind:
“What others say about me is a reflection of them, not of me.”